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by james1992 » Fri Sep 08, 2017 3:54 am

This kinda falls under "social phobia" so I figured this was the best place to put this.

Every time I've been attracted to a girl, I would become so worked up with anxiety that I wouldn't be able to talk to them, let alone ask them out. And I don't think the attraction was ever mutual. I don't know if anyone has ever been attracted to me except the one girl I did date (who I was not attracted to at first, so that anxiety wasn't there).

I've become so petrified by the idea of dating that it fills me with dread to consider it. It's to the point where it does not feel like a normal reaction.

Can anyone relate to this? How do you deal with this kind of anxiety? People who have dated, how did BP affect your relationship?

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by Spm24 » Fri Sep 08, 2017 6:12 am

Never dated much and now I do not have that problem since I am married. But I do have anxiety when I meet new people and have to talk to them.. So I am not much help to you since when I did date I was not diagnosed.
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by AvantGarde » Fri Sep 08, 2017 6:17 am

Hi, similar situation but on a different wavelength *waves*

I used to be great at flirting and asking people out. Nowadays just the thought of dating is stressing.

Be kind to yourself and take it slowly, that's the advice I was given.
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