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by BiBiGirl » Fri Jul 28, 2017 10:26 am

Hey guys :) ,
So I was diagnosed with Bipolar II Disorder in March and didn't share it with many people outside of immediate family and close friends. Before my diagnosis, I had a lot of college acquaintances who were very creeped out by my hypomanic episodes as I said and did things I would never do in a normal state of mind. :shock: It's a small school, so gossip travels fast. I go back in three weeks for sophomore year and I can't decide whether to lay low, or go around explaining my strange behavior and advocating for myself. In your experience, is it better to explain-ia your mania, or leave well enough alone and hope for the best? :?
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by Spm24 » Fri Jul 28, 2017 12:30 pm

In my experience it has been that it was better for me to leave well enough alone. If anyone asks and you can tell they are genuinely concerned you might consider telling them. But for me I only told a person here and there what caused my actions. The rest didn't even seem to care what happened so they weren't worth telling...but that's just my opinion....
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by AvantGarde » Fri Jul 28, 2017 12:56 pm

I tell everyone, and make sure to tell them it's nothing to be embarassed about. It doesn't make you different or is it a reason to hide. Nothing to be ashamed of.

Appropriate disclaimer: You might have other consequences, but keeping it in the shadows will have other consequences, such as allowing people to use it as a weapon against you.
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by libellula » Sat Jul 29, 2017 3:22 am

Difficult question: maybe only if they would ask you about it, then you could explain them this disorder
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by Mocha » Sat Jul 29, 2017 7:57 am

BiBi, you're right.....it is a dilemma..........I know you're at the age where these types of things can really mean a lot now.

Do you have anyone there that you can really trust? Someone you were really close to? Not just 'acquaintances', but a real friend? If so, maybe you could open up to them and let them know what's going on, but the gossips you don't owe a thing.

At that age, they're just the 'mean girls' mostly anyway. imo, you would just be giving them more ammunition. Screw that.

You'll figure out who you can trust, even if it's like Shawn said.....maybe it's just a couple of people to start with. Don't feel as though you have to announce it to the whole school right away. This is your personal business. Give yourself time to come to terms with it.

Bibi, I can't remember......are you in therapy? It would be a great place to help you deal with this too......

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by BiBiGirl » Sat Jul 29, 2017 3:36 pm

Great suggestions everyone, I will take that into consideration when I make my decision. To answer your questions, Mocha: I've lost a lot of people lately, but the girl I'm rooming with this year is really trustworthy. We lost touch after some drama but got back as friends. There's also a few I've met in classes or from freshman orientation that have stuck around.
I'm new to therapy and not sure if I like my tdoc completely, but we've been making progress in the more recent sessions.
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